Maioush

OMG if that was me, I would’ve killed that guy!!!

It really can’t be simpler than that :)

The typical nature of all personal development posts is to define a problem, then propose a solution.

I’m not going to do that here.

We spend a lot of times trying to improve things in our lives. We want better, more, faster, bigger, cooler, and on and on. So is there a time when more is not the answer? Is there a time when solving something wrong with your life is detrimental, because you could be spending that time enjoying all the right things about it?

I could say something really obvious like, be content with what you have, or accept yourself for who you are.

I’m not going to do that here.

Instead I want to ask you:

Do you think you could bypass a lot of struggle trying to fix all the things supposedly wrong with your life, and instead learn how to appreciate the things that are right with it?

So let me ask you: What’s right with your life?

It’s been a while that I really wanted to change my theme, today Husbandy decided to move my blog in able to put my own theme, I REALLY REALLY REALLY LVED this one, I know it’s been almost 9 moths, I have another theme that I really like too, but I really want to try this one, so please please please no comments about us being mushy or whatever, I want to enjoy it for a little while :)

And I have been for the past 5 years really, but this one is really different, these around me are the miserable type, they have no life away from their computers, I’ve been seeing the weirdest geeks ever, the type that don’t have any kind of communication skills, what so ever, they have no idea how to make a normal conversation.

I discovered lately that couple of them actually SLEEP in their offices, they nothing else to do out there ::sigh:: can you imagine working with someone like that, where someone like me (normal person) is trying to finish her work and go home because simply believe it or not, I have so many things to do after I leave!!!

They take this so dam seriously, dude, if you are miserable and don’t have better things to do, don’t blame me, I have happened to have a life.

Ana KTEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEER ba7ebek o meshta2alek Mama….

Ya rab y5aleeki ya Emmi… Ya set el 7abayeb .

Baba, Allah ytamem 3aleak bel shefa ya rab o ydeemak foo2 rasna dayman.

Ba7ebkom kteeeeeeeeeeeeeer o meshta2alkom aktar… allah ma ye7remni menkom…

Yet… nothing around me says it is, it’s still cold and rainy, I’m still curling next to the fire place, haven’t seen the sun in days, and haven’t seen any flowers yet!

Not sure how it’s gonna be in the next few weeks, all I know that I’m really ready for any other season other than winter!!!

To all of you out there, I’m not gonna mention your names this time, but I swear to god, this the last post I will not mention it in!!

I’ve posted this one before, but it fits here too.

you will regret pissing me off for the rest of your lives!

Sometimes the easiest way to solve a problem is to stop participating in the problem. Sometimes the smartest choice is giving up.

I don’t think that giving up should be your primary method for dealing with problems. But there are certainly a lot of cases where it just seems to be the most intelligent answer.

Giving up is really about honoring your feelings. It’s about giving up trying to force yourself into a mold of societal shoulds and embracing your true self.

So here’s an invitation to…

• Give up trying to be perfect.
• Give up trying to be cool.
• Give up wanting to be different for the sake of being unique.
• Give up keeping relationships with people you don’t really like.
• Give up trying to be the center of attention.
• Give up trying to be important. (Focusing on community is usually more fulfilling.)
• Give up achieving a lot of ego-driven goals.
• Give up caring about owning a lot of cool things, which keep you distracted from acknowledging that you don’t like what you’re doing with your life.

With that said, there are a lot of ways we think we’re doing well, but we’re really not.

Counter-intuitive to what you think, it might make more sense to…

• Give up trying to be super happy all the time. Instead, settle for being peaceful.
• Give up trying to live up to the expectation of… yourself.
• Give up needing a reason to share your love. Being alive is reason enough.
• Give up trying to be everything to everyone.
• Give up caring about being the smartest, best and fastest. At least don’t let your ego get caught up in it.
• Give up trying to constantly improve yourself.
• Give up caring about doing what works.
• Give up caring about knowing everything in advance before you take action. Put yourself on auto-response instead.
• Give up trying to always find interesting experiences and interesting things to do.
• Give up trying to live up to the expectation of your parents, your friends, your boss, and peers.
• Give up trying to have a flawless body, perfect face, or an impeccable wardrobe.

Trying to make things happen all the time creates a lot of unnecessary anxiety. It’s stressful trying to deny what is.

When I give up, I accept life as it is. No strings attached. No wishing things were different. If an action needs to be taken, I take it. But I’ve given up letting my happiness be dependent on a thing.

It’s interesting how we seem to have so many problems, so many dilemmas. But most of the time the answer to solving them is doing nothing. Giving up.