Maioush

This post has been written by my friend Rania, she is a very talented girl and i would like all of you to read this post and enjoy it the same way I did, thank you Rania for letting me publish this post here, wish you all the best my dear ملايين النساء المثقفات واخريات اميات ترزح تحت العنف بشتى اشكاله  نساء تريد العيش بكرامتها كانسان نصت على احترام حقوقه كل التشريعات الدينية و الدنيوية نساء تطالب بالمساواة و برفع الاذى عنهن ممن يسمى (ابو العصا) .و على الجانب الاخر نساءتريد  ان تتزوج سي السيد و مفهوم سي السيد عند الكثير منهن هو صاحب العصا ( ضربني لانه يحبني)(شو يعني اذا ضربني جوزي)… و في احدى الاحصائيات نجد ان نسبة كبيرة من النساء لا يمانعن اذا ضربن بل و قد تتجاوز حدود عدم الممانعة بتعبيرها عن فرط سعادتها بذلك.هل صحيح أن المراة المتعلمة في مجتمعنا تضرب جنباً الى جنب مع المراة الامية , نعم بحكم اطلاعي و عملي في القضايا الحقوقية رايت العديد من النساء و للاسف المتعلمات و المثقفات يضربن ضربا مبرحا و قد ترى بعض النسوة اللاتي يستمتن بالتنظير على النساء في بعض القرى مما يتبلور بداخل عقل الفتاة البسيطة بان من تنظرعليها بحقوقها هي سعيدة ولا تواجه ضغوط نفسية و عنف من( ابو العصا) الذي لم يحفظ من القران الكريم الا بضع ايات لم يكمل تلاوتها او لم يستطع فهمها و ان تلاها فانه يبلورها و يسيرها حسب حاجاته لاهانة هذه المرأة التي اهينت في ظل مجتمع ذكوري يحلل للرجل كل شي و يحرم على المراة ادنى حق من حقوقها التي شرعها من هو رحيم بهذه المراة. و بصراحة و ليس لغايات عملي و لكنني اسعد بان المراة قادرة الى الذهاب الى المحاكم حتى تنصفها من (ابو العصا)و حتى يعرف( ابو العصا )بان هنالك من يستطيع كسر هذه العصا او كسر اليد التي حملتها ,و لكن سرعان ما تتبدد الفرحة حيث تنهال الاتصالات على هذه المراة التي سرعان ما تواجه الضغوط العائلية و الاجتماعية و تذهب في الموعد القادم المحدد لهذه الجلسة لتتنازل عن حقها في هذه القضية , و كأن ابو (العصا )اصبح يحمل ضمة ورد و ليس عصا و هي لا تدري بأنها تسلم (ابو العصا )عصاً اشد و اغلظ ,و قد لا الومها لاننا نعيش في مجتمع اعطى للمراة حقوقا سرعان ما تتنازل عنها جراء الضغط الكبير عليها من مجتمع ينكر عليها استعمالها لحقها او الدفاع عن كرامتها اذا تجاوز (ابو العصا )الحدود المرسومة له دينيا وقانونيا,و هذه الحالات هي الظاهرة للعيان و ما خفي فهو اعظم, فملايين النساء في الوطن العربي تنام و تلبس و تاكل اضطهادا نفسيا من رجالنا الموقرين اللذين و ان لم يضربو و استعانو بالعصا سيجدون الف عصا فالايذاء النفسي اشد وقعا من الضرب اما آن الاوان للمراة ان تتمسك بحقوقها بالجانب الى واجباتها التي فاقت قدرتها و ان تكسر هذه العصا .و على الجانب الاخر احذروا ايها الرجال فللصبر حدود و اظن انه قد طفح الكيل ببعض النسوة اللاتي كسرن عصيكم و تسوقن الى جانب بعض الكيلوات من الخضار عصاًً لتستعملها في تنظيف المنزل جنباً الى جنب تنظيف عقول بعضكم من تراكمات و مفاهيم الذكورية المفرطةالمخزنة منذ نعومة اظافركم ولاسترداد بعض من كرامتها التي سلبتموها , فاصبح بعض الرجال في محاكمنا يذهبون للمطالبة بحقوقهم حيث وجدت بعض النساء ان العين بالعين و العصا بالعصا و ان العصا للرجل الذي عصا فهل سيأتي يوما و يكتب رجلا مقالة تحمل عنوان (ام .العصا) 

                                                                                                                                                                                                   رانيا

Let me hold you under blue skies   and chase away the clouds.   Let me take your hand in mine   and together plot our course.   

Let me kiss your furrowed brow   and smooth your cares away.   Let me laugh with you each morning   and love with you at evening.   

Let me take the evil of doubt   and smite it with the sword of faith.   Let me be your spirit’s comfort   and brace it for it’s journey.   

Let me hold you close and love you,   each morning as the day begins,   each evening as our souls rest   and through the years as we grow old.   

Oh that I could tell you,   the depths of what I feel,    the joy that loving you brings,   the happiness that would lie ahead.   T’was not an option to love you,   merely the fulfillment of a journey.  

let me think loud with u guys…

what should i write about, its never been easy for me to come up with words although I always end up with something…

where should I start? lets see

 I think that this post shows how unconnected I am. But you know, this is how I want this post to be, I want to speak about everything is my mind.. I have so many small things to tell that can’t be each in a post.

yesterday I took the day off from work and drove all the way to Barstow, its a 3 hours drive from LA, I went there to shop for Eid . I’ve never been to Barstow before that’s why I wanted to go I heard that they have a very nice mall over there, I left home at 9:00am with Judith and she should be the best in directions cuz everybody knows that I eally suck when itcomes to direction or as I always say “I’m the queen in getting lost” LOL, she pulled out the directions from yahoo map as she always does and we hit the road.we got to the 15 freeway and we started looking for the exit we were suppose to take and it was foothill exit,take right, take left, go there, turn here, and ops we got to a dead end and there is nothing there!!! Judith? r u sure u got the right map?? Judith: “yes I’m sure, freakin yahoo map man, this is the second time we try yahoo maps and we get a weird directions”. if u saw me at that time u would think that I’m crazy cuz I was laughing  so bad, I was thinking in my head “we will get lost cuz i’m sure that she is with me and my curse of being lost will effect her too”. I decided to stop by the first gas station and ask for the right directions, I got it and we arrived there after 2 hours of being lost.very nice mall all the big stores there, god I got a lot of stuff.

WOW,, this unconnected stream of thoughts seems to be longer than I thought!

I’m off in Monday, it will be the first day of Eid, I want to take off with my folks to the Arabic community, they have a very nice activities on Eid, we r gonna join them for the prayer and we gonna spend the day out with the family, I’m so excited especially that Hashem will be intdroduced to out Eid, he been giving us a hard time lately about how come we don’t celebrate chrismas and easter and thanks giving, I think its gonna be a good for him to know our Eid .

What else I have in mind to share on this blog?

There is someone I miss.. Laila…I tried to talk to her the other day but she wasn’t there her mom answered and she was so happy that I called as always, she is been always treating me like a doughter and I really miss her taking care of me when my mom wasn’t with me

 ”walahi ya 5alto Laila kteer ma3joo2a 3am bet7ader 7alha la kateb el ktab o ma namat mn youmean ya 7aram o 5soosan enno jad leesa eja el osboo3 el madi”

“eamyta el 5otbbeh 5alto mshan ajareb a7keeha marra tanyeh”

“walahi ya 5alto inshalla nawo 3ala youm 26/10 inshalla 3o2balek”

“telami 5alto b 7ayatek inshslla, salmi la laila o barkeelha 3anni”

Congratulation Laila and best wishes for u and ur future husband

Did you have enough from my unrelated talks? Ok catch you later then!

Sadly, many of us continually postpone our happiness indefinitely.
It’s not that we consciously set out to do so, but thet we keep convincing ourselves,
“someday I’ll be happy”

we’ll be happy when our bills are paid, when we get out of school, get our first job, a promotion.
We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another.
Then we are frustrated that the kids aren’t old enough we’ll be more content when they are.
After that, we’re frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly
be happy when they are out of that stage.
We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice vacation, when we retire.
And on and on and on!
Meanwhile, life keeps moving forward.
The truth is,
there’s no better time to be happy than right now.
If not now, when?
Your life will always be filled with challenges.
It’s best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway.
One of my favorite quotes comes from Alfred D’Souza.
He said, “For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin real life.
But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be got through first,
some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid.
Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.”
This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness.
Happiness is the way.
So, treasure every moment that you have!
And treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time.
…. and remember that time waits for no one…
Yesterday is history
Tomorrow a mystery
Today is a gift
That’s why it’s called the “present” !

Hello Friends;Just wanted to send you a few thoughts…

physical courage, there is moral courage.

Then there is still a higher type

of courage –

the courage to brave pain, to live

with it, to let few know of it and

to still find joy in life;

to wake up in the morning

with an enthusiasm for the

day ahead.”

Howard Cose

“Hold your head high,

Stick your chest out.

You CAN make it.

It gets dark sometimes,

but morning comes…..

Keep hope alive”

Jesse Jackson

“You gain strength, courage,

and confidence by every experience

in which you really stop to look

fear in the face.

You are able to say to yourself,

‘I lived through this horror.

I can take the next thing

that comes along.’

You must do the thing you

think you cannot do.”

Eleanor Roosevelt

“When you get into a tight place

and everything goes against you,

till it seems as though you could

not hang on a minute longer,

Never give up then.

For that is just the place and time

that the tide will turn.”

Harriet Beecher Stowe

Never ever give up.See always the special person you are and the power that lies in yourself.

If i just keep quiet.
And pretend to smile.
It will go away.
For a very short while.
If i cut my skin.
To see the blood flow.
People wouldnt cry,
Because they wouldnt know.
Its hard to tell.
Ill never show you.
All i do,
I might ignore you.
Ill crawl upstairs.
Leaving everything behind.
And ill slit my wrists.
And say good-night.

If i just keep quiet.
And pretend to smile.
It will go away.
For a very short while.
If i cut my skin.
To see the blood flow.
People wouldnt cry,
Because they wouldnt know.
Its hard to tell.
Ill never show you.
All i do,
I might ignore you.
Ill crawl upstairs.
Leaving everything behind.
And ill slit my wrists.
And say good-night.

If i just keep quiet.
And pretend to smile.
It will go away.
For a very short while.
If i cut my skin.
To see the blood flow.
People wouldnt cry,
Because they wouldnt know.
Its hard to tell.
Ill never show you.
All i do,
I might ignore you.
Ill crawl upstairs.
Leaving everything behind.
And ill slit my wrists.
And say good-night.

comfort on difficult days.

smiles when sadness intrudes.

rainbows to follow the clouds.

sunsets to warm your heart.

soft breezes to soothe your soul.

gentle hugs when spirits sag.

friendships to brighten your being.

quiet times to refresh your essence .

beauty for your eyes to see.

confidence for when you doubt.

faith so that you can believe.

courage to know yourself.

patience to accept the truth.

and love to complete your life.

This is being sent to you

because someone thought of you today.

someone cares about you today.

Because of who you are,

because of what you stand for,

because I wanted you to know I care.

Sometimes it’s difficult to tell you

what your friendship has meant

to me over the years.

When things were bad, I

knew that you always cared.

When things were good, I knew no

one was happier for me than you.

Your unwavering care has been an

anchor in my life.

Even when we didn’t agree,

I knew without doubt that you still cared.

Do you know that caring is returned each day?

That I think of you often and only wish you

the very best in life.

I hope our journey is always traveled together,

because without you in my life

I would be missing a large part of my heart.