Maioush

Most men are deeply offended by insincerity, and deeply disturbed by incongruity – for example, if we’re mad, but we smile and act nice – our behavior on the outside doesn’t match what we’re feeling on the inside. They can feel our anger, and the smile just reads “fake”. They think they can’t trust us.

They think we’re trying to control them. And a lot of the time, they’re right! We are trying to control things.

Often, we want things to go a certain way. We want to get to the party on time. We want to see that movie, or go to that restaurant. We want him to behave the way we want him to behave. And we want it now. We want the relationship all tied up nice in a bow and forever after. And we need to know. Now.

What if the way to getting what you want isn’t by asking for what you want?

What if the way to getting what you want is a way you’ve never even heard of?

Most of us say we’d do anything for love, and yet, all our actions and words seem to only push it away.

Every one of us is pushing away love in some way – because we’re all afraid of really getting close to a man and letting him see who we really are. We’re afraid of intimacy

And we all do it – push love away – in different ways.

Some of us talk a lot. We never stop talking, never really listen, and always have something to say. We talk so much because we’re nervous about what would happen if we stopped talking. If we stopped talking, he’d really see us as we believe we are – not really good enough on the inside.

The truth is, most of us women process our thoughts and feelings verbally. We say what comes to mind and sort of download it all in words.

This is really confusing for men. They get lost and frustrated because our talking seems like endless chatter to them.

And we spend a lot of time feeling as if we haven’t been heard.

And we haven’t.

If I were to ask you, to think of words and body language as either magnets to draw in a man, or fists to push him away, what would you tell me?

Would you say that you just want to be yourself and act “natural” and be “spontaneous?”

It would be great if saying what ever comes to mind could make us man magnets – and yet – it just doesn’t work that way.

And it’s not because being “spontaneous” and “natural” isn’t attractive to men – it is!

It’s because what we think of as “spontaneous,” “natural,” and “being ourselves” is most often really only our old nervous patterns (the ones that have never worked) coming up again, over and over.

And these old words and patterns actually keep love away!

To be continued on part 2…

Can you feel me close?

Look to the sky and see the stars shining down on you.

As they do, they shower you with my warmth and love.

Can you feel my hand? Look to the sky and see the moon’s soft glow.

It’s caress is my hand gently nestling itself in yours.

Can you feel my heart’s smile?

Look to the sky and see the sun, feel it’s heat on your face.

It’s radiant kiss is my heart surrounding and protecting yours with my love.

Whenever the distance seems to great, look to the sky.

And know that what my eyes see also passes through yours, and makes the miles seem not so great and never so much that we cannot reach out and touch with our hearts.

Brazil 

Toronto

Chicago

Cleveland

Cologne Cathedra

Copenhagen

London

Los Angeles

Moscow

Niagara Falls

Oakland

Paris

petersburg

Vienna

Gaza

I have no idea how it feels to be utterly loved.

I am the place a person falls to when life gets hard. I am the shoulder, the keeper of secrets, the kindness through their pain. I am the wisdom, the knowledge.

I have no idea how it feels to be utterly loved.

NOTE: This post is NOT by Maioush

I used to think I was “unlucky” in love.One man after another broke my heart, no matter how promising the “relationship” was at the beginning.I had so little self-esteem I was practically INVITING men to come into my life who had no intention of making me happy forever. And yet, time after time, I missed all the signals. And then, after years and years of horrible, dead-end, non-committed, always ending painfully non-relationships and getting my heart broken over and over, I finally found the man who became my husband. And I was so happy – for a way too short time.

Friendayeh

WARNING: THIS IS A VERY VERY VERY GIRLY POST

But guys if you wanna help, you are more than welcome to do so :)

Ok so, I’m need to do some shopping for few stuff, and girls I need your advice.

1. Foundation and powder:

I really care when it comes to the stuff I put directly on my face, I don’t care about the shadow, lip gloss, but I really need a good foundation and powder, my current ones are from BIOTHERM, but they decided that they want to be available online only in the states, and I can’t find my number anymore, so tome to change, I need something really light, and not oily, I have a normal skin el 7amdolla..  I HATE IT WHEN I look to a girls face and it’s so shiny, BIOTHERM were doing a great job, lasts for the whole day, and looks amazing, any recommendations for other brands??

2. Perfume:

My current perfume is Polo Sport from Ralph Lauren, I don’t like heavy perfumes, the lighter the better, I love perfumes that smells delicious ( I  like to smell like eshi zaki :) ) , I’ve been using it for almost 2 years, and I’m sick of it already, any recommendations on a cute zaki light perfume?

3. Black pants:

I need one decent black dressy pants for work, all my pats are HUGE!! I lost so much weight and I look funny now :(  I looked in so many places but didn’t find something that I really like, what do you think? Where should I go?

I really need to buy these 3 items, so to make things easier on you guys, I have no price limit, I just to find something that I really like, HELP

 I am not a huge American Idol fan, probably because I am not in to English music as much; I’m more like an Arabic music buff.

But the following is just plain common sense in my opinion from what I notices during the past few years…

I was flipping the channels tonight, and looks like it’s the opening night of American Idol. Mama is die hard fan of the show and then there was my bro Boss, who was an American Idol virgin and wanted to see what all the fuss was about.

One of the first things I said to Boss when the show started was that “you can tell if the person is a good singer before they ever open their mouth.” He totally did not believe me, but then he began to watch the show and saw contestant after contestant do the unthinkable. I believe American Idol needs to lay some ground rules for the audition.

Here are some simple guidelines to help you make it through your audition and get safely back home where you will end up if you engage in any of the following:

Wear A Costume

This seems like a no-brainer, but some of you folks still come to your audition dressed like Mickey Mouse or Captain America, I even saw a MAN today came wearing princess Leia’s bikini. I realize you are trying to be memorable, but all the judges will remember is that you looked ridiculous. It also sends a signal to them that you haven’t got what it takes to wow them with your singing talent, so you are using the costume as a substitute. Don’t. If you walk in wearing a costume, you might as well be packed and ready to go back home. The judges have already made their decision before you even opened your mouth.

Remember this guy?

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Blubber Excessively

This season returns with Simon Cowell, Paula Abdul, Randy Jackson and Jewel who fills the fourth judges seat. These are famous folks, yes, but keep your mouth shut about it. No matter what you think and how you really feel, showering them with compliments and flattery is a bad idea. You must maintain professionalism at all times. When you walk into an audition, greet them respectfully and make it short and sweet. Show them you respect their time and that you are here to audition, in other words: “Shut Up and Sing”

Hit on Simon

Again – seems like common sense here, but it’s really tacky. Be real. If you are a woman and you do this, it makes you look like a…well, you know. And if you are a guy hitting on Simon, it may be perceived as funny, but in reality it isn’t. I have yet to see a contestant hit on Simon (or any of the judges) and make it past the first couple rounds. It’s cute at first, but then you will get cut when it becomes annoying. And it will.

Sing with the Radio

As you may have noticed, no music is allowed in your audition. This means you have to sing “a cappella” In music terms this means “A cappella music is vocal music or singing without instrumental accompaniment.

Most of the time you probably sing with music on. This makes you sound really good. Start practicing without the radio or the CD player for a while. If your neighbors complain or the dog suddenly wants to go outside, toss your American Idol registration papers in the trash. Many people think they can sing well because when they sing with the radio, their voice blends in with the music and the actual artist’s vocal. Remember you are auditioning as a solo act, not the 6th member of ‘N Sync.

Copy Someone Else

Above all else, be yourself. That is the most authentic thing you can be. We, the television viewers, can spot a fake a mile away. We know when you are trying to pull one over on us. We’re not stupid. We want to see the real you and so do Simon, Paula, Randy and Jewel.

Don’t try to copy other people. Everyone is unique, You are not going to be the next Madonna or Prince. You can only be the next fill-in-your-name-here. When you practice, sing the song the way YOU feel it. That is the only way it will sound good (thank you Leslie!). If you sing a country song, don’t fake a Southern accent. Don’t grind your voice just because Brian Johnson of AC/DC does it. When Randy Jackson talks about “putting your own spin on it,” that’s what he’s talking about – singing it the way YOU feel it. Listen to him.

 Ever missed someone all of a sudden so bad,  you wish there were there for one minute, just want minute? Just to look at them one last time, to look into their eyes one last time, to touch their face one last time, to be there for them for the last time.

What would you say? What will be your last words for a loved one you know you will never see again? Would you let them know you love them? Would you ask for forgiveness?

If you can relive one moment of your live, what would it be? And why? Who do you wanna see? What do you wanna say to them?

If you can turn back time? What would you change? What do you regret?

I’m really hallucinating at this point, I have like a million questions rushing in to my head at the same time, my words can’t keep up with my brain right now.

What if?

We always wonder about that, in almost every thing in out life, what if ….? And for some reason we mostly say that when things are not going so great with us, we think that things could’ve been better if….

I have no idea what the hell I’m talking about, I suddenly miss all my loved ones at once, and I wish I can see them for one minute, one last time…

1. Maternity leave would last two years….with full pay.

2. There would be a cure for stretch marks.

3. Natural childbirth would become obsolete.

4. Morning sickness would rank as the nation’s #1 health problem.

5. All methods of birth control would be 100% effective.

6. Children would be kept in the hospital until toilet trained.

7. Men would be eager to talk about commitment.

8. They wouldn’t think twins were so cute.

9. Sons would have to be home from dates by 10:00 PM.

10. Briefcases would be used as diaper bags.

11. Paternity suits would be a fashion line of clothes.

12. They’d stay in bed during the entire pregnancy.

13. Restaurants would include ice cream and pickles as main entrees.

14. Women would rule the world.