Maioush

I had to post this guys, I mean seriously.. I have to share the laugh :D

LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL!

Friendayeh wrote,

As we talked in  Part 1 how men are really simple to deal with, but they are diffenetly now stupid, I’ll go int his part about chemistry and blaming men.

Psychologically, all our old words and body language together are our “defense system.” They’re there to defend us against threats and pain – but we use them all the time! We use them from the moment we lay eyes on a man, even before he opens his mouth!

We behave as though we’re in trouble, or not good enough, or about to be hurt – before we even know much at all about the man!

This is where Chemistry comes in.

If the chemistry is strong enough, we’ll sort of sail through the first few months of dating. He won’t pay too much attention to our defenses, even if they irritate him. He’ll pretend to listen while we talk and apologize for misreading our signals.

But then, sooner or later, the chemistry fades a little and the relationship gets real. All our defenses that have kept us from truly connecting with him get even stronger – now we can feel the tension. We can feel the distance between us. We can feel how he’s pulling away.

And we blame him.

And we say – “I should have known he was a jerk.”

 And then your friends support the “he’s a jerk” labelling because they don’t know, anymore than you did, how it all really happened.

We women are all willing to say “I’m not pretty enough,” or “I’m not good enough.” We’re willing to put ourselves down for who we are (and really hurt ourselves).

And beating ourselves up doesn’t help. In fact, it lowers our self-confidence, makes us feel angry about men, and makes things worse.

What does help is to really look at ways we can do things differently.

And sometimes, doing things differently takes different relationship skills.

Real spontaneity and naturalness – Authenticity is very, very attractive to men. Because it communicates CONFIDENCE in ourselves.

But most of the time, our old words and our old patterns actually are telling men, from the moment they talk with us, that we have absolutely NO confidence in ourselves!

 I was talking to one of my friends, she’s been married for almost 2 years now, she was complaining on how things are not going “so great” between the two, after listening to her for more than an hour, she felt much better that she actually was able to “talk” to someone about it, which made me think, when a relationship goes sour, one of the first things to suffer is communication. If you can’t communicate with each other, then there is no possible way to salvage the relationship. The thing to do is to prevent communication from ever being a problem. One of the most important aspects of this is to learn how to be a good listener. I guess what I’m about to say might help a lot:

1. Give Them Your Undivided Attention
   When your partner wants to talk, put everything else out of your mind and actually be there with them while they are talking. You cannot possibly listen to them if you are thinking about other things you would rather be doing, or have to do.
2. Listen To What Is Actually Being Said
   This is especially true if you are in a disagreement. It is very easy to pick out the things in what your partner is saying that you want to hear and can throw back at them. This is not some high school debate class where you score points for winning an argument, this is your sweetheart and your actions here and now will dictate the course of the rest of your life together!
3. Look At Them When They Are Talking To You
   Have you ever tried to talk to someone that refused to make eye contact with you? It is very disheartening, especially when you have something important to say. When talking with your sweetie, actually look at them and not around the room.
4. Notice the Hidden Emotional Tone of Your Partner
   Very often, your partner won’t say exactly what is on their mind straight away and it is up to you to draw them out. By looking for their emotional tone, through their body language, voice inflections etc., you will get a very good indicator of what is actually bothering them and also how it is affecting them.
5. Acknowledge Your Partner
   A correct acknowledgement can very often completely resolve a dispute in one go. It has a two-fold effect: 1. It tells your partner that you have heard and understand what they are saying and 2. It makes them feel better by releasing some of the emotional baggage that may have built up on the subject. A good rule of thumb when there is a lot of emotional baggage attached to a situation, is to acknowledge them by repeating in your own words what they have just said to you.
6. Remain Calm
   If your sweetheart is angry, very often they will lash out at you because you are there and are someone they can take their frustration out on. While this may not be pleasant and the most ideal way to handle a situation, I’m afraid it is part of the job description of being a sweetheart. Realize that it is just a way for your sweetie to vent and resist the urge to get angry back, it will only make things worse.

Happy listening everybody :)

 It puzzles me when I look at girls in their twenties and still act like little kids, I mean there is nothing wrong with being a kid ON THE INSIDE, but at a certain point I think we have to grow up, and act according to our age, and respect ourselves in able to others to respect us.

Looking at some Arab American girls (no offense to anyone here, most of my cousins are Arab Americans), I get really shocked by some of their actions, I mean for a girl who was born and raised in the middle east, I find really bazaar to make fun of my mom, dad, or grandparents anywhere, so I can’t even imagine making fun of them IN PUBLIC, such childish behavior will never be acceptable for me and I guess for anybody else!

I know that I just stated a dangerous generalization here, and I’m not saying they are all like that, NO… But for some reason, most of them are, you hear them arguing loud with their parents with no respect what so ever, making fun of them, how “khozo2” they are, making fun of their accents, clothes, and traditions.

When did we become like that? Really?? I look around and I get disgusted when I see some shallow lady in her twenties (or as my Teata syas “3aroos”) acting like 10 years old kid, whining and complaining about everything all the time, for god’s sake .. GROW UP ALREADY!!!

I remember when I used to be in Jordan, I used to visit my Teata and spend the weekend over her house, seriously guys… I used to wait for the weekend cuz I know I’m gonna be spending it with Teata Allah yer7amha, listen to her wonderful stories, east her amazing food ::sigh:: allah yer7amha, I envy those who still have Teata’s and Seedo’s around, guys please if you read this, the next time you visit your grandparents, kiss them for me Allah y5aleekom.

I have a confession to make, I HATE SALAD!!! but first of, I wanna state that I tried everything I can to love it, but no way I will ever do..

I’ve been eating it for the past week everyday as an attempt to lose weight, yeah yeah yeah … I joined the club, I was trying to gain some weigh, but things got out of control, and I gained more than I wanted to!!!

So as I said, I was eating a bowl of salad everyday for lunch, no breakfast, and a light lunch, what do think the results should be??? I lost couple of lbs?? Guess again… I gained TWO PUINDS!!!!

I mean what the heck!!! I don’t even like salad, I’ve been forcing myself to eat it, after all the salad I ate, I assure you, if you take a sample of my blood and put it under the microscope, you will no find any white or red cells, you will find little pieces of lettuce swimming around, and I still managed to gain weight!!

I am so mad at myself, back in September I was as skinny as 120lbs (well, I was so under weight, but I didn’t mind really) , I guess for a 5’11 girl I would look my best when I’m 130 to 135lb but now I’m at 142 :( and need to lose those or else I will go through bad depression!!!

I hate looking at the mirror, I hate wearing my clothes, it feels a little tight :( and I’m NOT buying clothes based on this weigh, NO NO and NO!!!

So ladies (and gentlemen) who wants to lose weight so we can start like a support group for each other? And I’m serious!!!

Happy Blog About Day everybody.. :) Allow me to say, that this day was and still amazing, I can’t believe how everybody got together and blogged about Jordan, I mean I was so excited that I slept for one hour LOL! I look like a walking zombie :D but I don’t care.. I’m just so happy.

Now for the good part… I was looking around for some happy songs and I found a lot of them I was about to dance in the office while hearing them LOL!

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And the Clasical :D

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Again.. Thank you all, Thank you for making this event so great, Thank you for making me feel like home again, today is very special and you guys proved that you are the best .. ALL OF YOU! :D

 The day I realized how much I love this country, the day I wished to be with every single Jordanian on the streets to scream

بالروح بالدم نفديك يا أردن

When I was calling all my friends and family back in Jordan, everybody was telling me how everybody are getting together, as hard as it was, but on that day I felt so strong, I kept on listening to every single radio station that is streaming from Jordan to hear people’s reaction, and I couldn’t be more proud to be a Jordanian they kept on repeating

يا جبل ما يهزك ريح

I'[m sorry for el post el neked! But reading everybody’s posts made me so emotional

This  song makes me cry every single time I hear it

  و يا بلدنا يا

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 I just don’t get it, some mothers don’t even deserve to be mothers, I’m sorry but yes this is the truth, the painful truth!!

Lisa, a mom of adorable girls, Amanda 9, and April 13 years old, is the worst nightmare can happen to these girls, I think they would be happier if they have the devil as there mom more than having this woman!!

Amanda has down syndrome, she is the purest and cutest girl you can ever meet, until her mom decided to give her away at the age of 8 because “she can’t take of her anymore” stating that this girl :had ruined her life”!! What a B*%$#**%$#

Did I mentions that she is an alcoholic and used to be a drug addict? She decided to keep the “healthy” kid and give the center the “sick” as she calls her!! I mean I’ve never been this mad in my whole life, how can give up your child after 9 years? No I mean can you give up your child to start with???????

Her answer was so simple “I didn’t plan to have her, some people asked me to, and when she was born, they discovered that she had Down syndrome, they changed their mind, and I got stuck with here”

Didn’t I tell you that is the worst night mare for these girls? The two sisters are apart for almost 2 months now, 2 days ago was Amanda’s birthday, and her nanny gave the best birthday party ever, and did the poor girl asked for… “Are mommy and April coming??”

I was about to cry, no I actually cried, I wonder what kind of heaven under those mom’s feet???