Maioush

 When I logged into my computer this morning, the random quote from google that greeted me was this:

“Let her [woman] receive encouragement for the proper cultivation of all her powers, so that she may enter profitably into the active business of life.” ~ Lucretia Mott

I think the part that smacked me in the face this morning was the word “proper”. As women, we have lots of powers. Some we use for good and others we squander or don’t use at all. Ultimately we are the ones choosing which powers to exercise and whether we will use them for good or evil. We are all constantly trying to “cultivate our powers” but are we receiving the right materials to prosper?

Ms. Mott suggests we should receive encouragement in order for the proper cultivation to take place. Much like a plant that needs water, sunlight and other nutrients to grow, encouragement is essential to our own growth. Without it, we may cultivate power, but is it proper? We can still grow and have power but it will be weak, wilted and poorly formed much like a plant that doesn’t get enough sunlight. Without the positive influence of encouragement, we cannot grow properly.

What can we do to ensure that we are properly cultivating power to others today?

 Silence is golden. I hear that phrase a lot. Usually from other people who say it in a very biting tone of voice. Maybe it’s because I am a music freak and I’m always making noise that tends to annoy other people. But even when I stop playing music and shut off my stereo (which takes extreme willpower for me to actually power it down) and try to be “quiet”, everything still seems pretty loud. My external world may have dropped to zero decibels, but my brain is still cranked to the max and all I hear are a bunch of screaming voices getting louder and louder as they compete for my attention.
We all have voices in our head, don’t deny it. Psychologists call them our “inner dialog” but I feel more like it’s a one-sided lecture rather than a conversation with myself. The “me” on the outside really isn’t getting a word in edge-wise as the voices increase their intensity and read me the riot act.

I’ve done a lot of research on this “inner dialog” stuff and it is fascinating. All the self-improvement experts will tell you that you should turn that negative banter into positive affirmations, but I think that is so bogus. It sounds nice in theory, but let’s be real. I don’t know about you, but the voices in my head have absolutely no tact whatsoever. They are highly critical of everything I do and they are not afraid to speak up and tell me what they think. I once thought about following that “expert” advice and teaching them to say some nice things. The first training session went something like this:
Me: “Good morning, Maioush. How’s it going today?”
Voices: “What’s good about it?”
Me: “Well, the sun is out and it’s a great day!”
Voices: “It’s hot and muggy. Go back to bed.”
Me: “But there’s a lot to do today, let’s get an early start.”
Voices: “Early? You’ve never been early for anything! Why start now?”
Me: “Well, I want to be productive today so I’m gonna get started…”
Voices: “Productive? That’s a big word for you.”
Me: “I think I can handle it. We’re going to start thinking positively now guys.”
Voices: *deafening sound of laughter*
Me: “Here’s the plan…Instead of you all nagging and criticizing me, I want you to say things in a nicer, more upbeat way. You know, encourage me. Motivate me. You can do it!”
Voices: More laughter followed by “Um…sure. Ok.”
Me: “Now what should I do first today?”
Voices: “Here’s something productive for you…why don’t you go work out?”
Me: “Hey good idea! And you were even nice about it!”

“Life is either a daring adventure or nothing. Security does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than exposure.” ~ Helen Keller

I love this quote, but I could also summarize it in three words:  “Take a risk!”  To me Helen is telling us that we are not truly living unless we step into the unknown and face the unimaginable.  It’s so true.  Reminds me of a conversation I had with my friend the other day:

R: “so how is your new job?”

Me:  “I’m doing well  el 7amdolla, I still have a lot to learn, but they like me so far.”

R: “sounds great! Good for you, Mai. Did you plan all of this as you dreamed of leaving the medical field and jump in to this, although you never worked it before?”

Me: “No. Planning sucks.  I prefer to wander around and amuse myself as I go.  All kinds of fun stuff just pops up that way.  ”

R : “Me, too.  ”

Although I DO plan some things in my life, I have no guarantees.  Everything I have accomplished in the last 2+ years has been the result of taking risks.  Had I not stepped out and followed my dream, I would have missed out on so much – this blog, new friends …   I have been living a daring adventure.  Have you?

 LOL!! You keep complaining about them, you keep telling everybody that they suck, and you end up joining them?? Lah lah lah :D

Amman changed so many things in you Q, you are not the man we know any more, I’m disappointed sara7a!

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Listen man, I’m kidding mesh tsade2, my laptop went crazy and I got this when I opened your blog :)

Don’t ever try to be someone you’re not. People will see through you right away. To have the best attitude, be true to yourself.

                                                                 Maioush :)

That’s right, the secret to having a great attitude is to be yourself and be happy with who you are. It doesn’t matter what you look like or where your strengths lie.

Do you remember that Christina Aguilera song? The one that goes, “I am beautiful, no matter what they say, no words can bring me down”? Well, our Christina may not always be number one in fashion, but when it comes to attitude, she’s right on.
The more we recognize our greatness, the more wonderful we become. Obviously, you don’t want to get carried away and get a swelled head, but you don’t have to be an arrogant show-off to feel good about yourself.

TIPS FOR FEELING GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF. . . ALWAYS!!!

• Value your friends and family and they will value you.

• Care less about what other people think.
• Do things or wear things that make YOU happy
• Look at the good things in your life. Look at the good things in you.

 so you think you can dance?? Yalla :D

people this so nice, I downloaded the CD last week, and it was the first song I listened to, I was in the car o ya 7abeeeeeebi, I started dancing IN THE CAR :D, it’s just too (7afleh),  it’s my favorite on Khaled Seleem’s new CD.

So here you go, now before you watch, the clip is lame, and the girl’s skirt can’t get any shorter, but who cares, the song is cool :) … yalla, brand new song … ENJOOOOOOOOOOOY!! :D

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 You really care about them, in away nobody can imagine, do you tell them when you’re hurt? Do you tell them that they hurt you by some of the things they said or did? Or do you keep convincing yourself that they didn’t mean to? i mean people never hurt each other on purpose, right?

You know that talking to other people will never be the answer, and talking to them about it will cause another problem, they are not the type who talk things out, you know they are really sensitive, and every word you say counts, do you wanna hurt the people you care about, who would like to hurt their friends, family, and the people they care about just to let things out?

Over the years I learned not to explode over things, but sometimes I feel like chocking if I don’t talk, it’s like a big huge fat mountain on my chest, but at the same time, I don’t wanna say something I know I will regret, especially when I really care about them.

::sigh:: sometimes I wish life was less complicated…

 Have a seat…relax…and read this slowly.

1. I believe – That we don’t have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

2. I believe – That no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you every once in a while and, you must forgive them for that.

3. I believe – That true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

4. I believe – That you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.

5. I believe – That it’s taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.

6. I believe – That you can keep going long after you can’t.

7. I believe – That either you control your attitude or it controls you.

8. I believe – That sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.

9. I believe – That just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to, doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.

10. I believe – That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays have passed.

11. I believe – That it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

12. I believe – That our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

13. I believe – That just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other, and just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.

14. I believe – That two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

15. I believe – That even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you – you will find the strength to help.

16. I believe – That credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

 It’s Wednesday morning, first day of Eid, I’m suppose to be celebrating with my family, they are ALL off today, they went to Eid prayer earlier, and where am I?? AT WORK!!!

I’ve been chatting with my friends in Jordan and they all said it’s boring in Jordan too, bs they also said that they are positive that it’s not as boring as here.

I wish I took the day off, but with the new job and everything, it’s really bad to take days off on your third week, so I decided to be a good employee and come to work while my family are celebrating Eid without me, I’m sure they will miss me ;) or maybe not.

I was thinking of celebrating after work, but here is the thing, I leave her @ 6pm and by the time I get home it will be 7:30pm (yeah I drive for an hour and a half every day, the traffic is just so bad), that leaves no time to do anything, so I guess I’ll just take a shower, watch bones, and go to sleep, that’s about it, fun ha??

Any way… Happy Eid my friends, wish you all a wonderful time with your family and loves ones inshalla :D

I’ll go back to work now.. let me know how is your Eid going though :)

 I miss your voice

Which always spoke so softly in my ear

Letting me know you cared about my day.

I miss your laughter

So quick and unbridled.

It warmed the center of my heart.

I miss your thoughts

That were freely shared

At the end of our day.

Your name comes to my mind bringing

Visions of yellow roses and white vases.

Long talks on the phone.

A friendship I will never end.

A love that I believed will never die.

Here I am standing

And I miss you