When Love Falls Short: The Pain of Unmet Needs
When you wait for someone you love to fill your need and they don’t, a sudden wave of bitterness washes over you. Why? Because you’ve stripped yourself bare before them, laid your soul open, showing your most fragile moments. And instead of standing by you, they turn away, indifferent.
It’s no wonder you feel shattered—you handed them something priceless, and they couldn’t see its worth. To bare your heart to the one you love is perhaps the purest form of truth, yet it can be one of the cruelest. Why? Because when you reveal your need, your weakness, and they remain untouched, the hurt runs deeper than mere disappointment. It shatters the trust you placed in them, making you lose hope that they’ll ever be your “rock” again. The safety you once felt in their presence? It vanishes.
Waiting for them to ease your pain is like a heart patient who has lost hope in healing, living each day under the weight of an unspoken, immeasurable sorrow. What’s worse, when someone is hurting, it’s near impossible to put it into words. Their actions, their silence, speak louder than anything they could say, reflecting the depth of their suffering. You may see them still, yet their eyes, their voice, even the quiet between their words, betray the pain they carry.
In the end, we must pay attention to those we love, especially our teenagers, our spouses, our parents. These are the ones who need to hear tenderness in our words and feel the warmth of our support.
Don’t wait for them to fulfill your needs—be present, always. Know their hearts, their longings, even before they’ve spoken them aloud.